As you all know by now, I’m an avid profile reader, and I do use what is in the profile as a first impression about a person in SL. You often see in someone’s profile picks a posting about what things mean in profiles (e.g., “I only like women = I am a man”), I find those entertaining , and sometimes they are very clever.
When I was looking at one of this, I started thinking if I could actually detect any patterns in profiles that would tell me more about the person behind the av. I found that there are some patterns that offer clues, but also found some trends that were not there when I joined SL 9 years ago. Here are some of them.
AV partnered to him/herself
What? Can you really partner with yourself? Of course you can through the use of an alt. But how do I know that they are the same person? Well, you take a look at their born dates and normally they are within two or three months of each other. Another clue is their groups (extremely similar or right down identical), and their use of the Picks area, and the other tabs in the profile. As many people do, they create an alt after a few months in SL and then they find creative ways to use them.
Why would they do that? I can only speculate so they can get out of any relationship with a built in excuse. If they like you, they claim their partner never comes into SL anymore, when they stop wanting to be with you, their partner makes a miraculous come back.
I have been in SL for xxx amount of years (born date within the last year or so).
I understand people wanting to say this to appear more experienced and don’t have people thinking they are a noob. But, some of these people are trying to use this as leverage to get in and out of relationships. How do they do that? By constantly referring to their past experiences to try to set rules for the Domme to follow, referring to a past Mistress that was “the best.”
I do test their knowledge of SL with simple questions about SL’s past, many fail. Then you know if all their assertions about being in SL for a long time is real.
You may say, wait … that has been going on for a long time in SL. I would answer that not really, there was a time where the “my groups are hidden in my (pick a body part)” was funny but rare. We all hide groups, but do you really have to hide them all? What does that say about you? Not even one for shoes? We used to be proud to have the Nylons No.9 or the Moody groups. Today, not even N-Core?
So what does that say about a person? To me it really shows the duplicity of the person, and once again I go to the first paragraph, it is a way to have a built in excuse for leaving a relationship. Or better yet, is it a way to top from the bottom? Make the Mistress do all the work? Hide? I’m standing at the Secret House right now and out of 24 people, 10 have empty profiles. A most disturbing trend.
i8 agree totally with what you have said, and I shake my head when see most of this with profiles