SL Profiles (part 2)

Today’s profile theme is:

I am collared by my loving Mistress (xxx_fill_in_name_xxx) but that doesn’t mean I’m off limits, or I can’t play.

Wow, if there ever was an invitation for fun. So what type of relationship is going on here? What problems do I see with this type of statement?

First, let’s take a look at if from the perspective of the Mistress. If you are a Mistress reading this, do you allow your sub to go out and play when you are not in SL? I personally don’t, I make sure I’m in SL enough to maintain the relationship as it should be. I inform my sub when I’m out of town and won’t be logging on and actually tell her not to log into SL during that time. You know we all could use a break from SL and ordering my sub to do it ensures me that she is getting adequate breaks as well (and yes I will double check through groups).

Do you think that is too mean? Is she really a true sub to you? If you make the statement, go out and have fun with other Mistresses when I am out, then I don’t believe that you are really committed to the relationship. A true sub wouldn’t do that in any case.

Commercial Profiles parked in the SIM for advertising purposes

Actually I don’t have a problem with this. It is tough enough to get the word out about your product. If you chose to stand in a SIM full of lesbians with some good outfit/gear on, be my guest, I will probably look at your profile and go buy some (make sure you put where to get it) if i like it.

What I can’t stand is the person contacting me all subbie like. ” ahem … excuse me Miss …” and later during the chat “would you like to come and see my store?” and then it is obvious that all she wants is to get a Mistress interested so she can get some business going her way. If you want to advertise do it in open chat, keep it out of any conversation with me. Hey, but if you are a true sub and want me to collect all the profits from your business as tribute to me I will happily do so (not really, but you get the point).


Using someone else’s photograph in a profile as their 1st life photo (or profile photo)

I equate this to stalking, bullying, and abuse. Some people say, what is the big deal. Well, what if it was your picture? When I see a photo, I will look for in on the Internet (every time).  How do I do that? By using the Snipping tool in Windows (you can do the same in Mac), opening it with Google Chrome and then right clicking on it and selecting “Search Google for this image.” Then you will see where it has been.

Trending Profile Posts

As you all know by now, I’m an avid profile reader, and I do use what is in the profile as a first impression about a person in SL. You often see in someone’s profile picks a posting about what things mean in profiles (e.g., “I only like women = I am a man”), I find those entertaining , and sometimes they are very clever.

When I was looking at one of this, I started thinking if I could actually detect any patterns in profiles  that would tell me more about the person behind the av. I found that there are some patterns that offer clues, but also found some trends that were not there when I joined SL 9 years ago. Here are some of them.

AV partnered to him/herself

What? Can you really partner with yourself? Of course you can through the use of an alt. But how do I know that they are the same person? Well, you take a look at their born dates and normally they are within two or three months of each other. Another clue is their groups (extremely similar or right down identical), and their use of the Picks area, and the other tabs in the profile. As many people do, they create an alt after a few months in SL and then they find creative ways to use them.

Why would they do that? I can only speculate so they can get out of any relationship with a built in excuse. If they like you, they claim their partner never comes into SL anymore, when they stop wanting to be with you, their partner makes a miraculous come back.

I have been in SL for xxx amount of years (born date within the last year or so).

I understand people wanting to say this to appear more experienced and don’t have people thinking they are a noob. But, some of these people are trying to use this as leverage to get in and out of relationships. How do they do that? By constantly referring to their past experiences to try to set rules for the Domme to follow, referring to a past Mistress that was “the best.”

I do test their knowledge of SL with simple questions about SL’s past, many fail. Then you know if all their assertions about being in SL for a long time is real.

Empty Groups

You may say, wait … that has been going on for a long time in SL. I would answer that not really, there was a time where the “my groups are hidden in my (pick a body part)” was funny but rare. We all hide groups, but do you really have to hide them all? What does that say about you? Not even one for shoes? We used to be proud to have the Nylons No.9 or the Moody groups. Today, not even N-Core?

So what does that say about a person? To me it really shows the duplicity of the person, and once again I go to the first paragraph, it is a way to have a built in excuse for leaving a relationship. Or better yet, is it a way to top from the bottom? Make the Mistress do all the work? Hide? I’m standing at the Secret House right now and out of 24 people, 10 have empty profiles. A most disturbing trend.