A Review of BDSM places for Women in SL

As I mentioned a few weeks back, I’v been compiling a list of SL lesbian D/s clubs since people inworld often ask me for new locations or locations I would recommend. I have a list of over sixty clubs and I realized that this was going to be a very long post (and didn’t want to break it up), so what I’ll do instead is give you what I believe are the most promising places in SL for lesbian BDSM. Notice that I am saying lesbian so any places that allow men or are not lesbian BDSM are not included. Even though the list is written by me, this time I interviewed 30 Dommes and 30 subs to find their tastes (I hope it is a better sample). At the end of the day it is my list. Good luck visiting these places.

A technical note, traffic according to Linden Labs means this: “Traffic will be the cumulative minutes spent on the parcel by all visitors to the parcel within the previous day.”

#1 The Lesbian Society (SLURL) – Previous ranking #3

The average traffic per day is now a healthy 10,000 avatar minutes per day.  The D/s ratio is about 3:10. It continues to be a place where you see a lot of Dommes, but the ratio of subs has increased dramatically.

The place is set in a very large castle and it definitely has the right atmosphere. I ranked them #1 because the owner (Mistress Victoria), continues to provide personal attention to the place and  engages people with chat. Local chat is very heavily used in this place which is becoming more of a rarity in SL. The group size is around 1550 so it really hasn’t grown that much over the years but at a good steady pace. The weekly meet and greets are very popular.

When I first reviewed this place, it was only six months old. The fact that it has passed the test of time definitely makes it a place to visit.

The place has grown over the years, and now includes two private rooms (a dungeon and an apartment), and several public areas (dungeon, bathhouse, slave storage, pony circle, HuCow stables, art gallery, shibari basement, a nude beach, and a Japanese garden/bath.

Most of the people I talked to enjoy the art gallery and the fact that every week there is a new exhibit of erotic lesbian art.

According to the owner a lot of the traffic is European, and the US traffic is just now beginning to build. So the number of people there will be time zone dependent.

I highly recommend this place since the atmosphere and the dynamics with the owner make it very interesting.

#2 Amelie’s Garden and Dungeon (SLURL) – Previous ranking #2

The average traffic per day has gone down to around 4100 avatar minutes per day, but the place continues to be a favorite of many people. Like most successful places, things don’t change too fast, and the owner really pays attention to the needs of the people that visit.  The D/s ratio is about 1:4 but this is deceiving as many Domes bring their subs there.

The place is clearly a D/s lesbian place, it is very expansive, but it has an incredible range of activities all of them very well built with attention to all the details.  Places to visit inside Amelie’s include: The Old House, the Ruins (medieval castle), the Forgotten Cells (medieval prison), a Pony Track and Barn, the Mansion (where most people gather), a Pool, Maid Quarters, a Wine Cellar, Basements, Catacombs, a Crypt, a Space Ship, The Bunker Club, and a few others.  Music is appropriate for the setting.

As it can be seen, there is a lot to do and find at Amelie’s. I like this place because it is a great place to bring a newly discovered sub to test out her will and disposition and help you make up your mind about her.  You can landmark individual spots and return to them, and also just about all the BDSM equipment you will need. It is a fantastic place and I normally donate in their box as appreciation to the level of detail you find there.

Why not #1? Because is not really a place to come and meet people. It can happen, but most avs are spread across the large SIM area and not gathered in one place.  You need to seek them out and most of the time they are already paired up and using the place as it was intended.  Sometimes you do find a gathering outside the mansion area.

It is women only, but I’m not sure that if a man shows up, there will be someone to take care of him promptly.

If you go there use the SLURL above and when you land in the main entrance area, click on the Amelie’s logo for a notecard that will give you the landmarks to each specific spot. That is a nice feature. Of  course, you can always explore the whole place.

#3 Venustus (SLURL) – Previous ranking #4

The average traffic per day is around 35000 avatar minutes per day and it has changed quite a bit since my review four years ago.  The D/s ratio is about 1:10.

Even though this is just typical SL club (DJ, dancing, surrounding mall, dance poles, etc…..) it is a good place to find people interested in the lifestyle. Plenty of traffic keeps the people coming in and there is plenty of themes, conversation,  a trivia ball.

A good place to meet people in a more commercial environment.

What the place lacks is the atmosphere of BDSM and the intimacy of close connections to be made and then go to a place inside to enjoy.

It is women only and well managed with availability of staff when problems occur.

#4 The Secret House (SLURL) – Previous ranking #1

With an average traffic of over 28,000 avatar minutes per day, it continues to be the most popular BDSM place for lesbians. Why the drop all the way to #4?

It advertises itself as an old/young and D/s club, and it has a dungeon, some private areas (most within hearing range of the main floor), and an open floor plan without much clutter. The club itself is cozy enough in the main floor, and each area is well separated.

Dommes and subs frequent the place with a Domme to sub ratio of about 1:8 (not unusual in these type of places). It is well visited throughout the day as many Europeans visit the place (German and French), and of course a heavy U.S. presence.

So why the drop from #1 to #4? The main reason is the recent change of ownership and the announcement that the place will be moving and some changes will be made. Add to that the fact that membership to the group and access to the place costs 250L and the new owner has stated that it will go up to 500L when it moves.

The traffic to Secret House has been in a steady decline since they started charging membership fees to join the group, and changes of ownership with a change in location normally makes it difficult for a place to regain its former glory.

It could be that in the next review Secret House makes it back to the top, but right now I can’t rank it higher until I see what the new changes will be. My interviews with people were mixed, but a small majority did state that they wouldn’t be going back after the move.

It is women only and well managed with availability of staff when problems occur.

#5 The Lesbian Loft (SLURL) – Previous ranking none

A new place that is getting some play. This is not the same Caged Club that was popular a couple of years ago. This one has a new owner and location. The D/s ration is about 1:5

With an average of 3500 avatar minutes per day, it has enough traffic to meet people in a regular basis.

I recommend a visit, and if there are people there, you can get some good interactions going.

The place advertises to be TG friendly and you will find more TGs there than in the other places.

It is female av only, but I didn’t see any staff available. It is definitely a pose ball, get down to sex or BDSM in a hurry kind of place.